I need to remember this…


Loving kindness prayer

For myself and all beings

May I be safe and protected.

May I be healthy and well.

May I live with ease and with joy.

May I rest deeply on the earth.

May my cells be able to breath out.

May I love myself completely with no parts left out.

May I hold myself dear.

May I get what I need.

May I be soothed by the healing balm of compassion.

May I meet myself with kindness, gentleness and tenderness.

“I need the sea because it teaches me”

I love this quote by Pablo Neruda and I’m posting it as reminder to myself to go to the beach this weekend. I’ve been running around the lake and harbour recently, but it’s not the same as walking along the sand and listening the waves lap against the shore. I’ve always found it a very comforting thought that however turbulent things feel within me, the sea is always there and the tide continues to come in and out. I guess it reminds me of my connection to something larger than whatever is going on in my heart, mind and body.

Sea 2

Self care

The fact that I’ve started turning to food again to comfort myself has made me reflect on the things I could do instead. When I’m stuck in the trance where all I can think about is food, any alternative action doesn’t even enter my mind. So I thought I ‘d write a list to remind me of things I can do for 30 minutes or so until the craving passes:

  • Read
  • Go for a swim
  • Go for a run – even the lap around my block which involves running down and then back up a very steep hill!
  • Colouring
  • Art work
  • Take a bath
  • Make a cup of hot cocoa – I love Green & Blacks cocoa powder
  • Tidy – this has more appeal than cleaning for me and I feel calmer when I’m not surrounded by clutter, clothes that need putting away, unopened mail, dishes to wash etc
  • Get in touch with friends that I’ve been meaning to contact
  • Read some poetry
  • Listen to a dharma talk – Tara Brach is a favourite of mine as her talks are generally about self-love and self-acceptance
  • Skype my best friend who lives in America
  • Call one of my close friends for a chat
  • Watch a TED talk
  • Plan a trip – a day trip, weekend away or holiday
  • Plan an activity – something new like a class, workshop, concert or event
  • Book a massage to look forward to
  • Buy a magazine to read – this always feels like a treat
  • Write a blog post!
  • Look at some of the handouts my therapist has given me
  • Arrange to visit friends who live further away so I have something to look forward to