Last week was really difficult – I was feeling hopeless, questioning everything in my life, having lots of horrible thoughts.
I’ve had the most amazing therapist for the last year who I’ve learnt so much from. So why is it so difficult to remember when I need it the most?
That’s why I write this blog, so I can look back and remind myself of the things that I’ve learnt and things that I’ve found helpful.
So last week, this is what I could have done with remembering. It would have been more useful than fantasising about how I’d cope financially if I can’t cope with my job, what I’d do if I give everything up and disappear for a year, or various ways to hurt myself and end my life.
- Plan one thing at a time so I feel like I’ve achieved something. I don’t have to do it all.
- Lower my expectations – when things are difficult I won’t meet my food and exercise goals for the week, but that’s ok. Give myself a break.
- Do something creative instead of spending hours watching TV.
- Less screen time and news – it helps me to slow down when everything feels like it’s going to fast and I’m getting overwhelmed.
- Plan small things to look forward to.
- Ask ‘Is there anything constructive I can do?’
- Ask ‘What is this thinking giving me? Is it leasing anywhere constructive or useful?’
- Can I address my worry by doing anything useful? If not, park the worry.
- Change my environment, move around, do some art in response to negative thoughts.
- Distress is inevitable. I need to learn how to cope with it.
- Challenge my thoughts – I can cope. I have before and I will again.
- Plan ahead food and exercise ahead in detail. That seems to work for me.
- Set a date to review the bigger life changes.
- Focus on small changes. I just need to move forward in the right direction.